"I didn't want my partner to talk back to me, and when she did, I would get more angry." – "Harry" Growing up with a violent father, "Harry" had always thought being aggressive towards women was the "normal way of life". Tui says men in his culture were taught not to cry, to "suck it up" and be tough. Rod grew up in a rural country town and believed that real men never shared their feelings. All of them have abused their partners. Following a recent spate of high profile domestic violence cases resulting in death, Insight brings together families with firsthand experiences to talk about violence in their homes. Perpetrators of domestic violence speak candidly about why they were abusive, exploring the impact of cultural expectations, gender roles and childhood trauma on their relationships. Guests discuss their struggle to break the cycle of abuse, revealing the challenges of leaving behind ingrained behaviours. We also hear deeply personal stories from victims of physical and verbal abuse, and ask how people cope with life inside a violent home.