Can shame ever be good? Kerry Tucker stole almost two million dollars from her employers over a seven year period. She says she only started feeling shame when the police turned up to her house to arrest her. "When it comes to shame you've got to feel ashamed by somebody telling you about your consequences or being confronted by it," she says. "While it's still a secret there's nothing to be shameful about." This week on Insight, we look at shame: Feeling it. Causing it. And getting past it. We hear from a newspaper editor who names and shames drink drivers, a gelato store owner who shamed thieves into returning a stolen birthday cake, and a transgender Jewish woman who was told she could only come to the synagogue if she sat in the men's section. Jenny Brockie asks when is shame necessary and when can it be destructive.